Games in Dating

I’m a strong believer in the necessity of playing games. I would define games as behaving in a strategic way to increase your chances of getting someone to sleep with you and/or pursue a relationship with you. Here are some quick examples of games:

-        Waiting 2-3 days after a date to give someone a call.

-        Initially ignoring the girl you’re interested in when approaching a group.

-        Getting your friend to distract a girl’s ugly friend.

-        Going with a girl to a second location to create the psychological perception of being together and established trust.

-        Making fun of a girl in a subtle way.

-        Turning a conversation so a girl is qualifying herself to you.

Most games center around two general principles: presenting yourself as a desirable person who has lots of other options, and making the other person feel a bit insecure. It sounds awful. Games have a negative stigma. So many people are tired of games and are supposedly looking for someone who won’t play games with them. I wish we lived in a world without games, where a man could right-away openly and honestly declare his interest for a woman and if it’s mutual, things move forward. Unfortunately, similar to communism this just doesn’t jive with human nature.

Human nature as it relates to finding a mate is very self-defeating. We seem to naturally want what we can’t have and get pushed away by someone else wanting us. Guys are just as guilty of this as girls.

 Every guy has at some point been frustrated by a girl that wasn’t interested saying “I’m a nice guy, why won’t she just give me a chance.” I’d argue that games played in the right way are just a strategic way of getting someone to overcome their human nature and give you chance to show them who you really are. Games don’t need to be this whole, diabolical, manipulative scheme. It can just be basic strategic ways of peeking an initial interest so someone will take the time to get to know you.

To be clear, I only advocate playing games at the very beginning of a relationship. Once two people begin to know each other a little bit, ideally they should dispense with this childish, albeit necessary stuff. Similarly, when I talk about games I’m not talking about pretending to be someone that you’re not. I strongly recommend being yourself. I suppose games are just being mindful about presenting yourself in the most effective way.

Or if you're considering dating me and reading this blog has made you nervous.